Moving with Kids

When parents or caregivers think about stress in children's lives, moving to another neighborhood is not the first thing that comes to mind. Easing the transition to a new home is important for children.

Some tips for parents include:

• Involve children in the move as early and as much as possible. Age-appropriate tasks or responsibilities can help children have a sense of control over their situation. For instance, younger children might be allowed to select where they would like to sleep, while older children might play more active roles in the selection of their new home.
• Try to maintain daily routines. While children are adjusting to new homes, neighborhoods, and schools, parents can provide some comfort by keeping some things the same. For instance, having the same nap times, morning and bedtime routines, and meal times might be comforting, especially for younger children.
• Be patient with children and empathize with their feelings. In some cases, children may not like their new schools, neighborhoods, or living arrangements despite their parents' best efforts. If this happens, parents should not become frustrated or angry. Instead, they should talk openly with children about their anxieties and reassure them that their feelings are normal. It will take some time to adjust to new surroundings.
• Help children make new friends and get them involved in their new communities. Participating in activities such as camps, after school programs, and neighborhood clubs is an excellent way for children to make new friends. Also, adults can use these activities to meet other parents in the neighborhood.
• Visit new schools to see if orientation programs are available for newcomers. These orientation programs can help alleviate many worries children have about their new school, such as knowing their way around and where their lockers are.